Arrogant Doctors

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I’ve been curious for some time about the arrogance and rudeness in my profession. When a new patient starts to relate her health history and interrupts herself with a comment like, “The so-and-so doctor was awful” (or really unpleasant or disrespectful), I inquire “Oh? What happened?” And she’s truly glad to tell someone, especially a seemingly sympathetic member of the offending profession.

After years of listening to patient complaints about doctors, there are few surprises. Most commonly it’s a variation of “didn’t listen to me,” “didn’t take my opinions seriously,” “kept interrupting and talked down to me,” “got impatient answering my questions,” “got defensive when I challenged his/her conclusions,” or generally was visibly preoccupied with something more important than the patient in front of him.

When I typed “physician arrogance” into my Google bar, I found a couple of chat rooms where doctors were defending their behavior with “We’re too rushed,” “Don’t have time to review a bunch of stuff you happened to find online,” and the supremely super-arrogant “Like it or not, we do know what’s best for you.” I pictured these angry patients and defensive doctors like two semi-crazed terriers on opposite sides of a cyclone fence yapping furiously at each other into eternity.

To me, there are two forms of physician arrogance:

The first is the physician with one of your basic personality disorders who really shouldn’t have gone into medicine in the first place. The idea of weeding out these docs beforehand–medical damage control, so to speak–was addressed in an editorial in the British Medical Journal several years ago. It suggested that along with good grades, recommendations from professors, and the clichéd desire to help others as criteria for acceptance into medical school, every potential candidate should undergo extensive psychological testing.

Previous studies in the UK have shown that “successful” GPs (competent, respected, well-liked by patients) were as a whole rather extroverted individuals who sincerely enjoyed people and weren’t schlepping a knapsack of unresolved psychological baggage. I’ve come across no shortage of the unresolved issues crowd, highly introverted or narcissistic individuals who need Valium to make eye contact with their patients and who generally regard all patients as an interference to their self-absorption.

For a while I wondered how these physicians could ever build a practice and financially survive until I realized almost all of them became salaried specialists employed by huge medical groups. As long as these doctors remained reasonably competent in their field, their behavioral problems were either not noticed or deliberately overlooked by their colleagues.

These guys virtually never got fired.

The second form of physician arrogance seems an institutional phenomenon, in which a whole culture of arrogance permeates everything associated with the medical center, from its hospital on down through its residency training program and medical school, even including its undergraduate school if one exists. In other words, a historical arrogance passed from generation to generation, a whole self-enclosed medical/academic culture whose members are thoroughly convinced their collective digestive tracts produce odor-free feces.

Without naming names (you institutions do know who you are), anyone living in Chicago after a few years can differentiate the basic jerk institutions from the generally nice ones. Not surprisingly, these same places are often brutal to their employees and create utterly dysfunctional workplace environments. But these institutions who know who they are really don’t care, do they? Of course, they wouldn’t care, they’re…Is this what tautology means?

If you’re uncertain who’s who in this regard, my suggestion for honing your arrogance-detection radar (Arro-dar for short) is to keep track of the time you spend waiting to see your doctor or waiting in an emergency room.

To me, repeatedly keeping someone waiting is the height of rudeness. Acknowledging that I personally have the patience of a hungry rat, I dislike waiting for anything. Keep me waiting a couple of times–maybe some sort of an emergency occurred–and I can forgive. Recurring, unconscionably long waits and I’m out of there and you should be too, because encounters like these will likely predict every subsequent visit within this institution.

If you find yourself in an emergency room and realize that you’ve knocked off a dozen chapters of War and Peace and no one has seen you, trust me, it won’t get a whole lot better once you’re admitted. On the other hand, if you’re in a doctor’s office or ER and see a sign that reads, “Please let us know if you have been waiting longer than 15 minutes,” the whole center is being run by someone who keeps track of patient satisfaction.

As a primary care physician, my own arrogance radar is much different, based largely on how well an institution’s specialists communicate with me. You’d think that in a huge multispecialty medical center, relying very much on referred patients from us primaries, communication would be a non-issue, but this is too often not the case. From some centers after I refer a patient I hear nothing, utter silence, the patient apparently having fallen off the planet. My inquiry calls are not returned. Occasionally, adding insult to injury, I later discover the specialist referred my patient to the institution’s own primary care department for follow-up care.

But at opposite end, at really good medical centers the specialist will call or fax over the consultation notes–often within an hour of your visit–and follow up with copies of test results, x-rays, and a summary letter (often closing with a “thanks for having confidence in our institution”). All this provides me with a lot of information on how you, my patient, fared, and after all that’s what I’m here for.

Let me end this by adding: Do not tolerate physician arrogance, period. If you’re sitting in the waiting room and your longevity and good will are being chipped away reading endless back issues of People Magazine, just exit and find someone else. If you leave any encounter with a doctor feeling tense and angry from your experience, then every single time you have an appointment you’ll have a vaguely sick feeling about the potential stress ahead. Your concerns will never be adequately addressed, your questions will remain unanswered, and you’ll feel bad to boot.

This is really not healthy.

Because of the recession and the health insurance crises, American Medical News reported this week that people are going to their doctors less often than ever. Office visits are down. Referrals to specialists are down. Elective surgery is way down. In other words, health care is becoming a buyer’s market.

You really never again have to pay to suffer through some doctor’s arrogance.

Be well,

David Edelberg, MD

PS:  At WholeHealth Chicago, we’re somewhat obsessive about being on time. Practitioners who run late get their knuckles soundly rapped at staff meetings. I hate to throw the blame back onto patients, but if you find yourself waiting in our center, the single most common reason is that a patient scheduled earlier in the day arrived late and threw the whole day’s schedule out of whack.

31 thoughts on “Arrogant Doctors

    When I first started having debilitating, chronic migraines I made an appointment with the only doctor listed on my new insurance that was accepting new patients. I explained to him that I had several family members who suffer from migraines so I’m aware of the symptoms (pain on one side of the head, nausea, sensitivity to light, etc.). He told me, “Migraines don’t run in the family.” After every single symptoms I mentioned, before I even got the words out of my mouth, he dismissed me, telling me that, “No, that’s not a migraine, that’s a tension headache. A migraine doesn’t cause pain on one side of the head. Migraines don’t cause throbbing pain…” I had tried Tylenol, Anvil, aspirin, etc. Nothing had worked. I knew I was not experiencing “tension headaches” because I was having all of the same symptoms my family members had who had severe migraines. But he was intent on dismissing me so I gave up and left without treatment. Years later I moved out of state and had new insurance and access to a new doctor. I told him about my years of suffering and my same symptoms and my experience with that other doctor. He told me that what I was describing was a classic migraine and he had no idea why a doctor would tell me they weren’t. He said migraines DO run in the family! He promptly prescribed migraine medications for me and they have been life changers for me. I should not have had to suffer years of debilitating pain because of one doctor’s personal agenda.

    Posted March 17, 2022 at 9:05 pm

      Hi Mary,
      Glad to hear you’re feeling better! It’s so important to be your own advocate in your healthcare – if something feels off and you’re not getting answers, it’s always a good idea to ask for a second opinion.
      Take good care!
      Dr M

      Posted March 18, 2022 at 9:50 am

    It is quite unfortunate when you ask your eye doctor for the alternatives to surgery and he looks at you as if you are some stupid little person wasting his precious time and responds “you can just walk away and live without your vision” or when you ask if an old lesion in a bone should continued to be monitored and you’re told “I am not going to encourage hypochondriac behavior”. In my personal profession I dealt with people and emergencies in a regular basis, not once did I feel entitled to mistreat other people or superior because of their misery and anxiety. Arrogance is arrogance plain and simple.

    Posted February 2, 2016 at 7:49 am

      Thank you for sharing Gus.

      WholeHealth Chicago
      Posted June 3, 2022 at 12:22 pm

    recently I had heart surgery.i told the dr,s involved not to tell me with their details.surgeon heard me,the dr, who installed a pacemaker HAD to tell me all the details,he did it in such a way that he was teaching a class.after surgery I experienced coldnee numbness around the pacemaker site,down my arm,m2 fingers on my left hand were very numb and painful.i rehabbed the problem myself.there are 3 md,s in this association. the pacemaker doctor heard my comments.when I went in to see him I overheard him in the hallway saying he didn’t want to see blood pressure shot up just dealing with him .I got sent to the emergency room at the hospital,as he sent me.i spent 8 hours there no relief.the dr coldnt have been angrier,dismissive with I could care what happens to you.just don’t be scheduled to go back there not to see him.this incident set the stage for future 71 in my younger days he would have been really sorry for his actions.i left that scene knowing I had been screwed thoroughly. thanks for reading this mr

    myles ratner
    Posted June 23, 2015 at 8:56 am

      Hi Myles,

      Thank you for sharing your experience.

      WholeHealth Chicago
      Posted June 3, 2022 at 12:24 pm

    Hello there …

    I am so looking forward to my first appt, and I do plan to be on time, to keep the flow going, as long as I find parking and all goes well getting there …

    In this day and age of identity theft, I was requested to give my credit card info over the phone, when I made my appt … that shocked me, I wanted to run when I heard that

    No doctor’s office ever asked me for a CC for my first visit … it still does not make me feel comfortable knowing that my info is in your system … I’m old school & I pay with a check when I go to the doctors …

    I hope you really have good security, but these hackers are crazy good in what they do …

    I do like your straight forward approach, I am ready to do the work now, if someone will only guide me …

    Have a good day,

    Mary C Kendzior
    Posted February 17, 2015 at 1:42 pm

    if you REALLY want to see “arrogance”.. Come down here in New Mexico, or Idaho.

    in EASTERN Idaho, many of the physician’s arrogance stems from a religious foundation: Mormonism. I work as a traveling CT tech. The head radiologist had a curtain in his office. In the Mormon church it’s known as the “Veil”. He could tell by our shoes (whenever he’d come and yell at us over something trivial) who we were. So when we entered his office, he had a CURTAIN drawn at the entrance. Yes, just like the “Veil” in the temple.

    If we had a question, we had to WAIT BEHIND THE CURTAIN until he would “bid” us to come in. Us, being “non doctors” – would wait – sometimes with the patient on the table – up to 20- 30 minutes.

    The doctors could just walk into the radiologists’ office and converse with him, no problem.

    If you live in Santa FE? The doctors in the ER KNOW the techs work 10-12 hour shifts. Yet, they call them in for routine exams all the time. 24/7. If the tech gets angry or loses it in front of the patient due to lack of sleep? The ER docs immediately blame the tech for poor service, file a complaint and have the tech sent down to HR.

    It is absolute arrogance on the physician’s part to even believe that non-doctors should be at their beck & call because the personnel are irrelevant and can be replaced at anytime.

    Posted November 2, 2014 at 5:21 pm

      Thank you for sharing.

      WholeHealth Chicago
      Posted June 3, 2022 at 12:25 pm

    Thank goodness a doctor finally understands how people should be treated!
    . It amazes me there are very few doctors like you in the world today…Keep doing what ur doing! I was rather fortunate to have two very humble and caring family doctors. One died of bowel cancer and he was a really good doctor! The GP we have now trained under him and he is also brilliant and humble. I wish there were more doctors like you and my GP. Some of the medical students in my class are already on their way to exhibiting arrogant behaviour. I don’t really get along with them because they have a need to step on everyone. And I can’t believe these people will be future doctors and the people I work with one day!!! I realised how bad it has upset some people and even I feel embarrassed and ashamed of their behaviour. Keep doing what your doing. God bless you 🙂 I shall keep up to date with this website. Lots of love from New Zealand 😀

    Posted September 19, 2012 at 6:58 am

      Lots of continued love from WholeHealth Chicago!

      WholeHealth Chicago
      Posted June 3, 2022 at 12:27 pm

    Thank you!!!

    Pat Conley
    Posted December 5, 2011 at 9:04 am

    I agree and try to schedule and minimize wait times. I love spending enough time to get all the facts and questions. I’ve learned that it sometimes takes a couple more minutes for people to relax and reveal all the details related to their foot problem. it’s better for them and for me in planning treatments.

    Debra young, Dom
    Posted November 24, 2011 at 11:43 am

    I love the way you write these, but this one in particular makes me miss my insurance since having to go on Social Security.

    The clinic I had to choose is hard to get to, and fear of being faced with the arrogance you write about here, is what has kept me away from an overdue checkup and mammogram. I hope I can muster the courage to give them a try after the holidays are over. But more than anything, I hope to change my fortunes and become able to choose again. I’d run back with wings on. Thank goodness I have your newsletter to help until then.

    Kathleen Harris
    Posted November 22, 2011 at 5:16 pm

    Thank you Dr. E. Once again you have nailed it. These arrogant, know-it-all doctors actually harm patients in many different ways. Having an rare neurolo-muscular disease which doctors know very little about, I encounter this constantly. When I go to you and you advise me to do something that will adversely affect me, all I have to say is the name of the disease and you say “say no more”. I don’t get that from ANY other doctor and I thank you for it, it’s a “big deal” to me.

    Judy Kayser
    Posted November 22, 2011 at 4:53 pm

    I was once kept waiting an hour and a half in the examining room at a major medical center in Chicago. When the doctor finally appeared, he graced me with his presence for approximately 5 minutes.

    In contrast, at Whole Health, I have never have had time to select a magazine!

    Colleen Jersild
    Posted November 22, 2011 at 4:13 pm

    Got my attention with this topic….I was just sent 2 termination letters(one certified) from my eye dr. for questioning him. I questioned his choice of meds after I had some muscle weakness, very dry mouth, and wanted to scratch my eyes out…I am now having a difficult time trusting!

    Bonnie Lennon
    Posted November 22, 2011 at 4:01 pm

    Dr. E. How brave it is for you to address this topic. Believe me, after working in the medical field and being a patient myself, I am so well aware of being put in a situation of being made to feel stupid and ridiculous after trying to explain an ailment or feeling that I have had. Most doctors think that they are Gods and have the answer to everything. If they are not familiar with it, have had no experience with it they will make the patient terrible. Instead of just saying, I don’t know or I didn’t study that, they will walk out of the office and announce to the staff, that this patient is loco. I would rather give up every bad thing that there is for me than sit in front of doctors or be in the hospital. Dr. E, that’s why I love you so much.

    Lenore Urbanski
    Posted November 22, 2011 at 2:19 pm

    Bravo to the person who told you your staff needs chill pills. I once called to ask when the next breast scans were being done and the person who answered said she didn’t know and made no offer to find out. Also I changed my appt. once and it didn’t get recorded somehow and I had money deducted from my checking account with a rude note that said I was being billed for a missed appt.Fortunately the change had been made online and I had a record of it. Also not the warmest bunch to deal with while waiting to see you. Lot of gossiping among themselves
    as if no one else were in the room.

    Ann E. Nonimus
    Posted November 22, 2011 at 10:38 am

      Your feedback is helpful; thank you! Changes have been made and we continue to work on improving all aspects of our patient’s experience at WholeHealth Chicago.

      Dr. R
      Posted November 22, 2011 at 10:51 am

    I am so happy to read this.. It is so affirming and respectful of the patient. Well done David.

    Sonia Choquette
    Posted November 22, 2011 at 9:42 am

    Physicians’ arrogance has been an acknowledged and sadly accepted reality for as long as I can remember (a long, long time). Most people I know who complain and complain about it end up putting up with it. That’s because patients themselves contributed greatly to the problem. We looked up to physicians like gods. We expected them to be psychic Einsteins. We gave them total control of our physical well being, accepting their diganoses without question, popping pills like candy, and running to them for every little blister and wart. We, the patients, have been whiny babies, and what we got in return was, not surprisingly, autocratic parent-doctors. In one sense rising medical costs were a blessing in turning patients toward alternative solutions –in reaction to which, many physicians appear to have retrenched and become charitcatures of themselves. But much of our upset with physicians is because they’re fallible human beings just like us. When we take more responsibility for our own well being, we’ll be happy iconoclasts, and physicians will develop better manners –or have to become dentists..

    Posted November 22, 2011 at 9:30 am

    Thank you so much for this issue! I have suffered from a chronic illness since I was a teen and have dealt with innumerable doctors over the years. I learned at an early age the importance of finding a physician who treats you with respect and kindness and have no qualms switching doctors if I detect arrogance, rudeness or impatience. And kudos to your team! I’ve often told Mari I feel like I’ve been to a spa when I leave my appointments, and not a doctor’s office. Thank you for treating the whole person and not simply treating the illness.

    Posted November 22, 2011 at 9:00 am

    Thank you Dr. E. My son has seen 35 doctors (many specialists) and recently, we went to one where I specifically announced that my son is the “most medically complex kid in Chicago. I don’t expect you to have the answers today.” Within 30 seconds, he had an answer for me and then wrote a note with treatment recommendations that could kill my son. He did not listen to half of his story and now the office staff is calling to ask why I never followed through with his testing or a follow up appointment.

    I did promptly tell the doctor’s colleague who referred me about the visit, the complete unprofessionalism, and the unjustified arrogance. She was embarrassed that she referred me to him, of course. Perhaps, unsatisfied patients need to speak up about their experiences more – to other doctors and to staff in charge in institutions.

    Posted November 22, 2011 at 8:48 am

    Love the way you speak the truth with no hesitation or beating around the bush. So much like the man I live with. Didn’t know there was another like him. Happy Thanksgiving to you and yours.

    Mery Krause
    Posted November 22, 2011 at 8:28 am

    3 years ago, I had hysterectomy by well known Chicagoland surgeon, leaving me in agony. Many treatments, meds and tests were given as problem was “mine” and there were NO results, or diagnosis for my agony, even after admission to hospital. Arrogance of 38 year old surgeon was evident, because error could not be his fault, there must be something wrong with ME, the patient.. Finally, 4 months later, the arrogant doctor (who thought I was a wimp) did 2nd surgery to extend the sling that was placed too tightly during first surgery, but sling was slit apart instead. Bladder AGAIN fell out. I was told to live with it. Also told I have Vulvodynia, I do not, that I have CPP, Chronic Pelvic Pain, I do not, and Interstitial Cystitis, I do not. I suffered greatly and my own primary was dismayed at ME. One doc defending another doc. I had no where to turn. Finally, after many uti’s, and much discomfort with end stage prolapse, on my own, I went to different surgeon at different hospital, recommended by nurse friend, and last month, had a colpocleissis surgery, and am a new woman. She was a caring and compassionate doctor who put her arms around me and said I had suffered too long. The first surgeon, upon realization that his error caused my agony, stated: This is only the 3rd or 4th time in my career that this has happened”….concern was for himself, NOT for the suffering patient. I still feel such anger at first doctor, because I suffered needlessly due to his arrogance and his not even considering he could have made an error. The blame was put on the patient instead. Thanks for hearing me out. I did tell this to my primary, when I told her I was leaving her practice as she too did not “get it” when I turned to her in agony …. and she asked me to stay with her (which I did) and said: Thank you for telling me, you are making me a better doctor. So, egos affect treatment, let me assure you of that.

    Posted November 22, 2011 at 8:20 am

    Thank you — feel much better for “firing” our “replacement” family physician for his arrogance.

    Posted November 22, 2011 at 8:14 am

    Dr. E

    I couldn’t agree more. It’s almost like you were a fly on the wall at my last doctor’s visit. He was more interested in bemoaning the economy and the current Democratic leadership than listening to me and my concerns. I’m an R, but really, I can get my political commentary on TV. And when I challenged the diagnosis of the specialist he sent me to, and his desire to send me back again for a repeat set of the same tests, he got defensive. “Well, everybody’s different” is not a good justification. And you’re right about the unhealthiness of the feeling of stress ahead should I go back, so it’s time to make a change. BTW, I’m not referring to a Chicago experience.

    Brad in Ohio
    Posted November 22, 2011 at 7:54 am

    Amen! Amen!! I’m surprised that a doctor notices this problem and admits it. I don’t go to doctors because of this and when I do go it is under dire circumstances. I go to Whole Health because Dr. E. doesn’t have that “my shit doesn’t stink” attitude (just sayin’). I do feel that some of the support staff at Whole Health should be given an attitude adjustment pill.

    Marie Raziuddin
    Posted November 22, 2011 at 7:46 am

    Dr E, I read your newsletter as often as i can. This issue was exceptionally good. I won’t tolerate arrogance or rudeness from anyone, not just MDs. I am in need of a freelancer to help me write and post a quarterly newsletter. I have budget to pay for this. Do you use a writer to assist you, and if so, would he/she be interested in extra work? If you do this all on your own, then my hat’s off to you!

    Dan Marselle
    Posted November 22, 2011 at 7:35 am

    Once again, a superb, informative and helpful article. How lucky for me to have signed up for this wonderful letter!

    Melissa McClayton

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    Posted November 22, 2011 at 6:11 am

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